Oooops wait a minute, hear me out first.
I know it’s next to impossible to get to completely clutter-free parenting especially when you have tiny humans in the house who constantly misplace and shove things under the bed.
Yes, I want to live a clutter-free life!
Clutter is one of our parenting struggles, my parenting struggle!
Fast forward to 5 years later after my firstborn, it is still one of my main struggles. We have been living in rented apartments since my husband and I settled, and we have moved in and out apartments 5 times already in our married life! That’s 5 times in 7 years, girl! Five times!
In between those changing homes, I had to go to work and had work to bring home to finish. There was not enough time for me to keep things properly organized. And so years later, our collection of stuff has just piled up in ‘to keep boxes’. And I must admit, I am not a very good fit as a housewife keeping all things tidy, organized and cozy either. (I must also admit, some procrastination has come in the way, too!)
Until I realized all these things we have hoarded have been causing us much trouble and stress. It badly affects my life and my relationship with my family.
Imagine how impatient and overwhelmed one can become with clutter everywhere on top of kids’ tantrums and work deadlines.
Not only it is stress-provoking and time-consuming but it also compromises the behavior that I am trying to model to my little humans.
For instance, I am always struggling with asking Z to throw away stuff that she isn’t actually using like plastic bottles, product tags and pamphlets that are posted outside our door. She would always hesitate and debate that we would need those later on – no doubt she sees it from me as I also keep random pamphlets from hospitals or shops for later reference. As she probably thinks this is the new norm, she also begins to be more defiant. Clutter creates conflict among us and I am so tired of it.
I am so tired of hearing myself yell and nag over irrelevant matters instead of nurturing a peaceful, loving and joyful environment.
(That’s #momtruth and #momguilt right there!)
So how do I plan to deal with it?
De-cluttering The Scariest Space In Our Home
Just last week I made a decision and started to be firm with my choices. Thanks to Dana for making these choices easier for me.
I finally took the courage to start taking things out of my home by asking myself these two questions:
- If I needed this, where would I look for it first?
- If I needed this, would it ever occur to me that I already had one?
I started with bravely taking the books and clothes and even some kitchen wares that we are not using and put them in the ‘Donate Bags’.
I am a teacher so there are files and other stuff that actually end up at home as I take some stuff to be done and eventually add up to my piling clutter.
(You know what I found at the bottom of my clutter? Some old bank receipts from years ago when I was regularly sending money home, including the receipts I sent for my ex! Yikes!)
(Even the old socks and ugh old underwears? Eeek! Who still keeps them? LOL)
Fortunately, I was able to go over them and also started purging down some ‘random’ things and finally put them in the ‘throw away box’, too.
I have the bags ready to be picked up once I have a confirmation from the ones collecting donations in town.
I am still halfway through this de-cluttering journey. I just realized it is also taking time to de-clutter the entire house but I am glad I had the courage to finally get it started.
Seven more weeks before the school year is over and by then, I plan on reorganizing the remaining stuff in the kids’ room.
Last week, I have started with sorting out the tiny toys and put them in separate boxes, because sooner, my tiniest human in the house will be crawling around before I know it.
My goal is to keep things minimal by carefully deciding on what we really need versus what we want.
This applies to me, and my entire family. This means minimal visits to thrift shops, less random stuff equals more savings.
Has clutter been an issue in your homes too?
Join me in this de-cluttering and peaceful parenting journey!
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